1. Felt safety is essential.
2. Preparation reduces fear.
3. Prioritize choice and calmness.
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Understand and Prepare for Triggers During Halloween
Some children may have experienced violence or deep fear in real life, which makes scary costumes, loud noises or decorations like fake blood especially upsetting. While you may not know every detail of your child’s past, be mindful of what you do know. Avoid exposing them to things that could stir up painful memories. Also, reflect on situations you’ve experienced together (crowded places or dark settings, for example) and plan ahead to mitigate any stress they might feel.
Set Accurate Expectations
Help your child feel in control by preparing them for what to expect. Explain your plans for Halloween or the days surrounding it so they aren’t startled by costumes or decorations. Don’t forget to check if their school has any Halloween-themed activities coming up. If your child is fearful of spooky things, you may want to ask their teacher for a heads-up.
QUICK TIP: If trick-or-treating is on the agenda, consider a practice walk during daylight hours, perhaps with a friendly neighbor playing along.
Try on Costumes Ahead of Time
Children with heightened sensory needs may struggle with certain fabrics or accessories, especially those that are itchy or restrictive. They may not like face coverings or headgear. To avoid last-minute conflicts, have them try on costumes well in advance. Adjust or remove uncomfortable elements as needed and prepare them if the final look doesn’t match what they imagined.
QUICK TIP:Try not to take it personally if your costume idea doesn’t work out. The goal is for your child to feel safe and have fun!
Provide Choice and Control
Children who’ve experienced trauma often feel powerless. Let them decide how they want to (or not) participate in October activities and respect their preferences. Some may prefer to stay home, watch a movie, or hand out candy rather than go trick-or-treating.
QUICK TIP: If your older child seems eager to join in trick-or-treating, though they may seem “too old,” keep in mind they may not have had the chance to do this before or may be developmentally younger than their chronological age. Try to give them the opportunity to participate in whatever way they enjoy.
Watch for Reactions
Pay close attention to your child’s body language and behavior. If they seem anxious or withdrawn, they may be overwhelmed. This is particularly important during activities like trick-or-treating, where costumes and strangers may heighten their stress.
Offer comfort, understanding, and an immediate option to take a break from anything that makes them uncomfortable.
Skip Scary Themes
Consider alternatives to horror themes. How about hayrides, arts and crafts, or pumpkin carving? Suggest costume ideas that are fun. You could even choose a family costume – a great way to build connection and join in on something they like. Try to focus on fun rather than fear.
By taking these steps, you can help your child feel more in control and secure, ensuring they can enjoy this season while making positive, fun memories.
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